As with most holiday decorations I love to see them come, but I love to see them go. We put away all our Halloween décor and the mantel was left sparse and unfinished. It may be silly, but I love to decorate the mantel. It’s the one place I can easily change up each season to give a fresh feel to the house. Each jaunt past the latest holiday display steals a smile from me.
Now left with a blank slate I was undecided on how to dress the fireplace for the pending Thanksgiving festivities.
I know November rolls around and everyone moves into “thank you” mode. It’s so wrong that we only focus on this for one month a year. It should be a monthly holiday.
Really a daily event.
The circumstances of the week lead me to a place of rolling words of thanksgiving over and over in my mind. Eventually my mind overflowed and an audible thank you left my lips in the quiet of my house. Repeatedly. It was just me and God. He needed to hear the words and I needed to say them.
Give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:18
I decided the scripture God clearly laid on my heart should be the center of our Thanksgiving Mantel scape. Here you will find some pictures to make it yours as well (pom pom wreath tutorial here).
This verse is not new to me and I have read many a devotion surrounding it. The thing is they always seem to be referring to the more tragic, heart wrenching circumstances. Sickness, death, job loss, infidelity…
Man – I get it, we need some coaching on giving thanks in the unconceivable events that this fallen world presents. The problem is I often find it hard to give thanks in the not so major stuff. Maybe I am completely alone in this wretchedness, but it doesn’t take much for a little thing to become a big thing and poison my day.
A dear friend and I were discussing this exact problem and she gave advice that I have been clinging to like a life preserver in the ocean.
When you start to grumble you have to get outside yourself. Hold your thoughts captive (2 Corn 10:5) and turn them around to thanksgiving. Some times you won’t have to go far out in the circles of thanksgiving, other days you may have to go wide. Let me explain with an honest run down of my week:
My husband travels a good amount for work. He left this week on Tuesday, mid-afternoon to drive to a bigger city with a bigger airport so he could catch his 7:00am flight the next morning and was set to return Thursday afternoon. There are a number of trips lined up on the calendar behind this one. Maybe it was their impending snatching of my husband that got me going, who can say. As he pulled out of the drive the lies and selfishness consumed me. I slide into the skin of a five year old ready to burst at the seams with a foot stomping tantrum. He gets to go relax, have dinner out, lay in a quiet hotel room. I bet he gets to read a book uninterrupted. Then he gets to go have meetings…with adults AND have dinner AND conversation AND see things AND explore a new city. Me? I am home making tacos, scooping cat litter in my pajamas, carpooling kids to and fro, refereeing fights and repeating “pick up your backpack” and “eat your dinner” till I want to pass out.
As I type this the absurdity of it is apparent, but in the moment the frustration is real. Not a single breath of it is true.
There is nothing dire about these circumstances. However, the teeming ungratefulness is a problem, no matter how big or small the situation.
So, I heard my friends advice calling out to me and I took these embarrassingly senseless and selfish thoughts prisoner. I started searching for truth and things to be thankful for.
Thank you that my husband has a job. Thank you that I have a husband that is such an amazing worker and provider. Thank you that his job provides to a degree that I can be home with our children. Thank you that my husband loves me. Thank you that I love him. Thank you for the gift of our marriage. Thank you that I am now home alone for a few hours on a Tuesday and can spend this time however I want. Thank you for this house that you provided. Thank you that his job pays for this house. Thank you that I even have children. Thank you that my children have a safe haven.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
My list went on and moved outward from me into the bigger picture and my heart was settled. I actually took that free next chunk of time to pray and read. In the posture of praise peace fell over me.
Sometimes, it’s harder for me to rattle off a list of praise so quickly and I have to search further outside if myself. Thank you that I don’t live in a war torn country. Thank you that I can freely worship and go to church. Thank you for the food on our table. Like my friend suggested, go however far out you need to find something to be thankful for.
When you stop and choose to look at what is going right instead of what is going wrong, the wrong will drown out in a sea of right. It’s the little hiccups in our day, circumstances not looking the way we want that can set us off course. The enemy loves that. He will lay a cookie crumb trail down the rabbit hole of self pity and entice you to run, not walk to a place of selfish despair. We have to refocus our gaze…to Jesus.
It’s baby steps, at least for me. I have to learn how to be thankful in the little details of every day to even get close to hoping I’ll be able to handle the hard hitting circumstances that this world promises. By training my thoughts to seek the generosity of God’s hand in my life it gets easier and easier to turn potential wins for the enemy into joyful victories bursting with thanksgiving in Christ.
My training continues with this tiny reminder placed in the center of our home on our Thanksgiving mantel. I have a feeling it might just stick around all year long.
So that it can be a daily holiday.
How about you? Do you struggle with the details? I hope you’ll share this post with a friend that might need it. If you would like to make the pom pom wreath you see the tutorial is here!
Personally and artfully written my precious, honest friend, xo
thank you, It felt yucky and small to share. I know there are much bigger woes in the world
Your posts always have me nodding in agreement! Being thankful in the moment can sometimes be hard but with a little work – we can celebrate thanksgiving moment by moment, day by day! Miss you, friend!
see you soon 🙂
I know what you mean. I do try, though, to be thankful for the little things each day. It really does ground you and put things in perspective, sometime when we need it most. I agree. It should be an “everyday” holiday. xoKathleen
Perspective is a good thing!!!
Amazing and perfectly said for me! Thank you for sharing your heart. XO Kari
thank you Kari – I am well aware there are bigger problems in the world and I am an insanely blessed soul, but some days I tank 🙁
I am grateful that God wakes me up every day so a big Thank You to God. Every time I find myself feeling sorry for what I don’t have or complaining about something, after a few minutes I realize how lucky I am for the things I have and the great life I live. Thank you for this post. It was so inspiring❤️
Thank YOU! We do have to constantly look toward the good and positive to stay in that mindframe!!! xo
I needed this today… Thanks for sharing.
Me too Shawna…………I am blest in many ways and know it. Yet can grumble, more when it involves hubby it seems, and I step back telling myself he’s really a good guy – not perfect and neither are you. I know there’s no coincidence this read was placed in my path purposely this morn, and for that I thank you………. Happy Thanksgiving to all!!
Hi! Today I read your blog for the first time. I had to laugh! Your life sounds so like mine, traveling husband and scooping the litter box in my Jammie’s. Talking about God things! Our women’s group at church is studying the book Choosing Gratitude, your Journey to Joy, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. If you haven’t read it, I recommend it. I’m discovering that gratitude is a genuine super power! God Bless!
I love when that happens! I will look into that book for sure…thank you for the recommendation!
And I pursued the suggested book from my library today and looking forward to reading it. Thank you!
I’ve been in your exact same shoes with young kids and a husband traveling all the time. It was so hard and lonely at times. Now I’m 52 and he’s still traveling but I’m thankful for his job, and our home, and all the things in life that we have and love that have come from that. Life throws us big curve balls sometimes and goodness knows we have to search hard for what we can be thankful for. I’ve been there too. Thanks for this awesome post today.
Thank you Stacey – it is always nice to know we aren’t alone. I too am so grateful for the blessing of my husbands job, I am blessed beyond measure!!!
Every stay at home parent has days like that. We get macaroni jewelry, sticky kisses, hugs for no particular reason we get to raise our children and enjoy them. Don’t tell anybody or they will all join us.
Amen sister – it is top secret how amazingly awesome the privilege is, even if it doesn’t always feel that way!
What a great reminder–an attitude of gratitude works wonders in our spirits! Such a charming vignette, thanks so much for sharing it @Vintage Charm!
Yes – I have to work on my attitude occasionally 🙂 Such a good party, thanks for hosting!
I want to say thank you for your honesty I’ve been in a slump of self loathing trying to call dig my way out and you and your friends words sunk in for that I’m forever grateful
I am so happy these words helped you. that is such a rough place to be and I know from experience. Baby steps help and soon enough you will look up and no longer see gloom. I promise, hang in there friend!
Thankfulness brings abundance. Most likely because when we are thankful for the small thongs they start to seem like big blessings. I have gotten in the habit for literally thanking God for being able to buy groceries without worrying how I am going to pay for them while I am loading them onto the checkout belt. There was a time when we were pinching pennies to put food on the table. I also thank God at least once a day for my home which I struggled to purchase. I am blessed beyond measure in my life.
I too am blessed beyond measure, but as well am constantly looking for the good and blessings in all things. Thank you for your heart here friend
So essential to our well-being–mental, spiritual, bodily–to remember to be thankful. I quote from a dear, wise and departed pastor who once said in a sermon: “Hang out in Gratitude, Friends.” It has stuck with me for many years. But, of course, I need reminding to “hang out in gratitude” each and every day. If I can do it everything else takes care of itself. You are on the right track, dearie!
such a good quote – it really is the best place to be!